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Research Question/ Discussion - support systems

I am thinking about the various kinds of support that makes mothering better. I am very much interested in you Chocobot! I loved the essay you wrote a while ago about extended families; you and your partner moving in with your parents after you had a child. It seems the support there, makes it better--to be a college student and a satisfied mother/woman. I never hear you complaining Like this "my child is driving me crazy and I want to kill her and myself, please god someone help, I need some time to myself " like I hear with most single and nuclear moms at some point.

Phoenix Rising also is an example of what I think of, with shareparenting and many activist activities where you have purposely build up support and inclusion for mothering and childcare -- I feel you are more creative, satisfied, and balanced, Liberated --- then alot of situations where the mother is not getting enough time to herself.

DO you guys feel this way about yourself? Anyone care to talk about their support system - I want to know about things that make it "better" - more patient for your child, more fulfilled in your own personal pursuits

if this is too impresise a question: thats ok. you know how I sometimes get a bug to start some kind of discussion on some kind of something... ha

By China at 01/05/2006 - 6:55pm | More Stuff to Discuss! | previous forum topic | next forum topic

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I have a group of moms that

I have a group of moms that I'm friends with and we get together regularly for playdates as well as girls night out. It helps so much just to have other women around for support. My mother is also my hugest helper- I would never be able to get any big projects done if it weren't for her. Although I love my husband and he helps me hugely on art projects- regular day to day clean out the catbox kind of stuff is not really his best thing. I'm working on it though... :) I don't have too many artist mama friends though. The women I've met around my neighborhood that are creative mamas tend to be really competitive and I just can't take that. I do have one good friend who is a writer and it's nice to talk ideas with her. And this community is great for that too.

By ripemama at Tue, 01/10/2006 - 4:37pm |

hmmmmmm

My support system is primaruly Brian, my husband. He is good about doing stuff with the kids or taking them somewhere so I can write, especially now that I am no longer an insomniac. I used to do a lot of my writing at night when my kids were sleeping but now I actually sleep at night. Also my MIL, she will come get the kids whenever if she doesn't have anything planned, which si hardly ever. Now that my daughter is older, 16, she will sometimes run around with the boys or take them somewhere when they are being rowdy so I can have an hour or 2 to write. and my sons are not real little anymore, they are 11 and 8 and sometimes want to sit with me and work on their own writing projects while I am tapping away.

trula mama zine * zine for kids 5-12

Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art~don Miguel Ruiz

By Trula at Fri, 01/06/2006 - 7:56pm |

I don't really have a great

I don't really have a great support system. My husband has grown a bunch over the years but he is crazy busy this year also. I sort of rely on monthly LLL meetings for baseline sanity but I need more.

By Lone Star Ma at Sat, 01/07/2006 - 9:05am |